"So Sensitive" ♡
♡ "You are so sensitive" ♡
Do you find the word "sensitive" is thrown around alot, and mostly holding a negative meaning?
The Oxford Dictionary definition is:
"having or displaying a quick and delicate appreciation of others' feelings"
Meaning that somebody who is sensitive is thoughtful towards others and their feelings. Which, I don't feel is a particularly negative trait to have. So how has it come to be used in a negative way to describe a person?
'Oh you're just being sensitive'
'It's a joke... don't be so sensitive'
We have come to be so conditioned to be super tough, super hard and to have no emotions in particular situations. This then means that some of us are made to feel silly when we do take slight offence or are sensitive to comments or react differently to how other's believe we should.
I have ALWAYS been SUPER sensitive. I can't help it. I like to think I am a kind and caring person, and I feel like if people are making fun or aren't being kind - I can react 'sensitively'.
I have been told by friends, family, teachers, lecturers to "butch up", "grow a thicker skin", "not be so sensitive", "not take it so personally" etc etc etc... the list goes on! But in reality, as much as I do try to not react in this way - I am 27 and have always been the same - I think it is just a part of who I am now & I am fed up of apologising for it. Yes, I have grown a bit of a thicker skin to certain things, and I can make fun of myself but I also know limits.
I found this quote on a blog :
"The truth is, being sensitive means you notice things, you care about people's feelings, and you think deeply before you speak. It means taking the time to absorb and process, rather than rushing to a decision. And, for a lot of people, being sensitive isn't just a passing mood — it's a key part of who they are."
Instead of trying to see these words used to describe us as just negative, we need to learn the flip side of those words. The positives! What that ALSO means. Yes, it can mean we react differently but it can also mean how loving people are and kind towards others. And I would much rather be known as those things, personally.
Because at the end of the day, that's all they are really - just words 🤍 You can take them and store them, or just leave them where you found them and carry on about your day.
We should not have to change who we fundamentally are as people to please others and to change the words they use to describe us. Maybe, we should look at how we treat others instead. And maybe, we should look at how we raise our children to not knock any sensitivity out of them. Maybe we should teach them to be KIND, so the more sensitive children don't feel they have to hide their sensitivity.
Have you ever been described as sensitive, or overly- sensitive?
Lots of love
EP 💕
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